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Have a Crush? Here's How to Let Them
Know
By Kim Lance, Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine
[link "Online Dating Magazine" to http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com]
We have all experienced it… the butterflies in your
stomach when you see him or her from across the room; the
shortness of breath when you brush past your crush or stand
close to him or her in the elevator; the increased heart
rate when your arms lean against each other in the movie
theater. These
are all signals that you are falling for someone. Recognizing
this is easy, but letting someone know your feelings is much
more complicated. Here are a few ways to hint to your crush
that you are developing feelings beyond friendship and to
find out if they feel the same.
The Honest Approach
The easiest way is to take a deep breath and spill the beans
to him or her directly. Just set a time where you can get
your crush alone and tell him or her your true feelings
and
ask if they feel the same. You will be laying it all out
on the line and possibly setting yourself up for immediate
rejection, but it is the quickest way to get it all off
your chest. This method takes a huge amount of self-esteem,
however. If you are not a self-confidence superhero, perhaps
a more subtle approach would be best.
Increase the Flirt Factor
A good way to feel out the possibility of a friend becoming
more than a friend is to slowly become flirtier with the
object of your affection. Smiling a lot, making lots of
eye contact, an occasional wink and quick, private glances
when in a social setting can give your crush subtle signs
that you are giving them more attention than others. If
you pay particular attention to your crush over other people
it shows your crush that you have special feelings for
him or her.
Get More Physical
Take any opportunity you can to reach out and touch your
crush. No, I don’t mean invading their space and
making them feel uncomfortable. Simple take opportunities
to touch their arm or hand as you engage in conversation.
Give your crush a hug when saying goodbye or greeting each
other. Nudge them in a flirty way when joking with them
and lean in close when they are telling you a story or
secret. Increased physicial contact is a good way to drop
hints that you would like to be closer to him or her, both
relationship wise, and physically.
Be Plentiful With Your Compliments
Start complimenting your crush when they get a haircut or
wear a nice outfit. This will not only make your crush
feel better about themselves, but will also let them know
you think they are attractive. Making comments like “you
have such a great sense of humor” when your crush
makes a joke or “you are so smart” when discussing
an important issue is a good way to let your crush know
you really like them.
No tactic is foolproof, and it may still require you flat
out telling your crush your feelings if they don’t
get the hint, but they could help you get a better sense
of how your crush feels about you. With any of these tactics,
it is important to read your crush’s responses. If
they respond to your comments or actions by getting embarrassed
or annoyed, chances are they don’t feel the same about
you. If they respond to flirting with more flirting, it is
a good sign they are crushing on you too.
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Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of
Online Dating Magazine [link "Online Dating
Magazine" to http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com],
an Internet publication covering online dating through news,
reviews, experiences, interviews, and articles.
This article is copyright and may not be republished. Used
with permission.
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